Module 01 · Know Yourself First

The Mirror
Exercise

The most honest 30 minutes you'll spend on your love life. Part one builds your dream person. Part two asks who you actually are — with questions you haven't seen before. The gap only reveals itself at the end.

10
Categories
120
Questions
~30
Minutes

This isn't a wish list.
It's a revelation.

Part one asks what you want in a partner. Part two is a completely different set of questions about who you actually are — you won't see part one again until your results. Answer both parts as honestly as you can. Nobody sees this but you.

1
Rate your dream
Star-rate qualities in a partner. Mark one dealbreaker per category.
2
Answer honestly
Different behavioural questions about you. Slider scales match each question type.
3
See the gap
Full detail results pair every question and show where the distance is.

On dealbreakers: Each category gives you one flag — the single quality you truly cannot build a life without. Not aspirational. Not ideal. The one real non-negotiable. Choose carefully.

Take your time on part two. The questions are designed to make you think, not just react. There's no right answer — only an honest one.

Who is your
dream person?

Rate how important each quality is to you in a partner. Be honest about what you actually want — not what you think you should want. Mark one dealbreaker per category.

Who are you
right now?

These are different questions — not a repeat of part one. Answer each one based on how you actually show up in life today. Each slider is labelled to match the question being asked. Your part one answers are waiting in your results.

The Mirror
Reveals

alignment

Your true dealbreakers

The qualities you flagged as non-negotiable. Where you see a significant gap, that's your most urgent growth work.

Alignment by category

How closely your self-assessment matches your dream across each area of life.

Full breakdown

Every question pair — what you dreamed on the left, what you answered about yourself on the right. The gap score shows the distance between the two.

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